Author – Oohini Mukhopadhyay
Who says Delhi is the rape capital of India? When your safety is in your hands and nobody else’s, why blame the poor sex starved, testosterone driven perverts?
Being born and brought up as a Delhite and that too as a girl, I have also had the bitter experiences where the scanning male gaze is truly out of control, and in overcrowded places their hands defy the basic shamefacedness of a human being.
Now after so many years, I’ve come to realize that it is actually very much in our hands to be able to deal with these kind of situations. So here are some experience and introspection driven preventive measures that might be helpful for all the “Eves” living, working or travelling in the capital.
Yes, this is one hell of a tool that is not only beneficial to stab a stalker or cut his fingers, but to attack him viciously before he even realizes his heinous crime. It is readily available online and much useful than the make up for sure. However if he has a gun, then stab him in the eye and run off like a snake, so that he has some difficulty in taking aim.
A Pepper Spray or a Volini Spray
The pepper spray is a very effective tool that not only blinds the person for a while, but causes respiratory irritation and inflammation that might result in fits and senselessness due to dizziness. However it might be a little irritating for the person spraying it too, so in that case a simple volini spray is as much effective and much easily available.
Having the Right Body language
It is the foremost safety rule. To have an absolutist, extremist and nonconformist look while travelling. The ability to say ‘no’, ‘stop’, ‘don’t’ with confidence is a an important quality which needs to be projected when disturbed. Even if a male gaze annoys you, do not overlook it! Look back, until his eyes drop in shame.
Always make noise and scream to assert protest
This is one thing which most women refrain from, to make noise as it might result in chaos. But hey, you should create chaos. Scream, shriek and make the shrillest protests that deafens the culprit. Expose the bastard. Recognize the fact that the most voiceless ones are the most vulnerable.
Spare yourself a few self defence classes
This may appear as an impossible dream dream but it is as important as providing your body with food, sleep and recreation. Just two classes per week and at most 3- 4 months of your life can give you a technique which is as much beneficial as learning driving, cooking or anything else. Some major moves can be even tested on friends if they annoy you. Hence it’s not really a bad idea to devote sometime to this.
Getting major safety apps on phone and setting emergency codes
This is something which might already be in use for most of the girls out there, but if not, then please equip your phone with these numerous apps that can be much more effective than Candy Crush Saga or Instagram. These apps are specially designed with trackers, important contacts and other information which can help you and your loved ones trace your location and help. If not, then the basic emergency codes can work too.
Note the details of the transport vehicle
Lastly, for all the women availing public transports other than the “safe” metro, make a note of the cab’s, auto Rickshaw’s, and bus’s etc. numbers, the driver’s name and mobile number and it should be emphatically done in his presence in his knowledge. Also inform your friends and guardians about the surrounding whereabouts. Another technique is to fake conversation if the phone battery is exhausted. Make the driver believe that the information of your whereabouts is passed onto a reliable source and he can do no harm and get away with it.